Sunday, January 31, 2010

Power Weekend By The Light Of The Wolf Moon

My BFF Debra (the Medicine Woman and Reiki Master) hosted an extraordinary Friday evening for an extraordinary group of like-minded friends. Her e-invitation referred to the festivities as “Healing & Releasing Drum Medicine & Journey” with her friend, mentor and colleague Phil (a man of equally impressive mainstream and indigenous energy medicine credentials).  In a nutshell, shamanic drumming has been practiced around the globe for some twenty thousand years and is considered one of the oldest known healing methods. The connection between the shaman and his (or her) drum is the foundation of a healing power rich with tradition and ritual. During a shamanic journey, a shaman communes with energies from the spirit world; and in so doing, induces an altered state of consciousness in all who participate (much like the widely understood state produced during meditation).

On Saturday Debra, our friend Joyce (the microbiologist), and I attended a guided meditation led by Debra’s friend and fellow healer Judith (The Angel Therapist) This... the day after a shamanic drumming ceremony was beyond amazing. Readers who are already familiar with discussion of celestial beings and divine realms will understand from the get go how exceptional such a meditation can be. If you don’t know anything about such things and are open to it, check out Judith’s website.

Today I’m meeting an eclectic group of women friends in the city for brunch.  I’m bringing Goddess Goody Bags for all, filled with Fruit Roll-Ups and other assorted goodies including glitter tattoos that I have yet to try.

Still bathing in the energies of empowered and empowering women, under the influence of the largest and brightest full moon of 2010 (The Wolf Moon), I am in awe of this incredible weekend.  My physical, emotional, and spiritual bodies are refreshed. I am pumped.

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Pornography and Erotica – Part Two

There’s no accounting for taste or personal preference when it comes to sexually suggestive or explicit material.  What turns one person (or one couple) on may be a total turn off to another. That’s what makes choosing a suitable adult film so difficult. Readily available information is seemingly at a premium unless, of course, you know where to look. The abundance of what’s often referred to as skin flicks is a tasteless excuse for gratuitous and unflattering sexual activity captured on film (not that there’s anything wrong with that).  There are, however, soft,  hard core and mainstream movies available that are of noteworthy erotic quality.

Connoisseurs of adult films may be well aware of the best in classic and current X, R, and M-rated block busters. But how many of us are connoisseurs?  And what about the beginner who has yet to see a really sexy film? 

It’s in the interest of the curious beginner that I recommend Dancing at the Blue Iguana.  On HBO, the opening screen notes that the film is R rated and contains Violence (V), Nudity (N), Adult Content (AC) and Adult Language (AL).
A mainstream erotic drama, Dancing at the Blue Iguana, stars Charlotte Ayanna, Daryl Hannah, Sandra Oh, and Jennifer Tilly.  The compelling story of five strippers is as engaging as the abundant nudity and pole dancing. This film is not for anyone who’s looking for a hard-core X-rated film. It’s for the beginner who may wish to ease into the world of erotica with a thought provoking movie that’s beautifully done... or for anyone else who enjoys the beauty, sensuality, and flexibility of the female body.
Dancing at the Blue Iguana may also serve as an unintentional guide on how to give the best head ever.  Pay special attention to the pole dancing scenes and recreate them orally. Yes Goddesses, The Art of Oral Pole Dancing is a creative technique you don’t want to miss out on.

Thursday, January 21, 2010

What I Didn't Ask Dr. Oz

One of my favorite segments of the Dr. Oz Show takes place in The No Embarrassment Zone in which audience participants (such as myself – see side bar), skypers, and Facebook fans ask Dr. Oz their most delicate, sensitive, and otherwise embarrassing questions. I asked about my super-sized libido. Admittedly, I was too embarrassed to ask Dr. Oz the one question that has been on my mind for quite some time.Perhaps, someone (maybe even Dr. Oz) will answer the question below now that I’ve finally figured out how to enable links and comments. Here goes:

Flavored and colored condoms as well as yummy body lubes are oodles and oodles of fun during oral sex, but are they safe to use?

Saturday, January 16, 2010

Dedicated To The Dr. Oz Show

If you’re ever asked to be a guest on The Dr. Oz Show, I have one bit of advice; say YES. My husband and I were one of three fun-loving couples who dared to participate in the National Sex Experiment and discuss the intimate experience in front of zillions of viewers. Dr. Laura Berman, the drop-dead-gorgeous sex guru of the airwaves, joined Dr. Oz in leading a conversation about everlasting marital merriment and intimacy. We, The Sexy Six, of the 90 Day Sex Challenge can attest to the value of talking, kissing, cuddling, and other required connubial commitments.

Everything (and I mean everything) about being on the show was enjoyable. 100% of the people we met were amazing… everyone including the transportation team, the hair &  make-up people, and the entire production staff. Especially awesome was Brett, my favorite of favorites, my first friend in the Land of Oz.  Needless to say meeting, conversing with, and being hugged by the truly exquisite, impressive, and ever-so-HOT Dr. Mehmet Oz was a knock your socks off experience. My honey and I had so much fun, it seemed surreal.

After the taping (I’ll let you know when the piece airs), we headed for home to reflect upon the joys of the day. We had lunch at our favorite local steakhouse where I’m embarrassed to say I allowed the love of my life to order the “Gourmet Burger Special: a 6 oz. Black Angus Burger with Double Cheese (American and Cheddar) with Caramelized Onions, Bacon and French Fries.” This, after the Dr. Oz Show, was shameful.

We returned home in an exceptional frame of mind and headed straight for our attic hide-a-way henceforth to be known as The Fantasy Suite. We dedicated our love making to The Dr. Oz Show which left us inspired, motivated, and more in love than ever. We didn’t do anything particularly out of the ordinary… except for nudity in the fullest sense of the word… which is unusual during the winter months in our unheated fantasy suite. Not to worry, we generated lots of heat.

Monday, January 11, 2010

Pornography and Erotica – Part One

When Oprah Winfrey teams up with Lisa Ling (the host of National Geographic Explorer) and Jenna Jameson (the world’s most famous porn star) to discuss pornography and erotica on daytime TV, you can be sure it's become socially acceptable for quality women to discuss and even watch adult films. It's been said that one out of three consumers of pornography and erotica are women and that 80-some odd percent of females in their twenties and thirties enjoy X-rated movies as part of a healthy and varied sex life. In my humble opinion, the challenge is figuring out what to watch and how to find it.

Steve Hirsch, Co-CEO of Vivid Entertainment, spoke of the huge couples market on the ground breaking Oprah show last November.  He said that women generally want more foreplay, more story line, more mainstream content, and more art in their adult films than men.  No surprise there.  Most men appear to want lots of sex with little to no story line and lots and lots of graphic close up shots of actively engaged moisture laden genitals.

Adult films are available in retail and online stores such as Babeland  as well as other retail stores and sites that might be less female friendly. Shop around if you must or simply click  the banner on my sidebar for a safe and friendly trip to a high end (no pun intended) X-rated  shopping experience.

Adult content material is also available on pay-per-view cable as well as late night soft porn on HBO. Beginner's Porn (the HBO variety) is significantly less explicit than harder core porn. Graphic scenes of erections, penetration, fellatio, and cunnilingus are all no nos; much is left to the imagination. 

I’ll be writing more about erotic material (dvds and literature) in the future and I plan to make recommendations if I find something worth sharing. In the meantime, feel free to do your own research and let me know if you find something wonderful.  Please email me at

Saturday, January 9, 2010

Introducing Scratch

In the interest of fairness and equality, I think you should be introduced to my other kitty Scratch. Less accommodating than Jellie, Scratch would never wear a wig.

Thursday, January 7, 2010

More Fun With A Wig

When you’ve had enough erotic entertainment with your wig (see previous blog entry), fret not; there’s more fun to be had. Leave the wig in a common area of your home. The more people you live with, the greater the chances that some fun loving individual will have a good idea.

My husband, daughter, and son took turns wearing the wig. But, it was my cat Jellie who wore it best of all.

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

How A Wig Can Wow

There are few accessories that can change a person’s appearance as completely and inexpensively as a wig. Wearing a wig to create a novel sexual mood or theme can translate into some really big time fun.

My hair, for example, is kind of like Jennifer Aniston’s: blondish, shoulder length, no bangs with highlights and lowlights. Needless to say, my $29.99 dark brown, just below the chin Foxy Wig with bangs is a colossal departure from reality. Add to that:

  • A lacey camisole (not my usual garb)
  • A different perfume
  • Bright red lipstick
  • Banana Muffin (wax melt) fragrance in the air
  • A mirror positioned just so
  • A digital camera

What can I say other than WOW? My honey definitely enjoyed the wig and the naturally occurring activities that followed. I’m not certain; however, which one of us enjoyed it more.

If you live in NYC, Long Island, or Miami you can purchase a wig at Ricky’s ( or simply shop online in the comfort of your home. I’m planning another trip to Ricky’s sometime very soon for something new… maybe something longish and reddish. Oh yeah!

Saturday, January 2, 2010

Dear Reader

I hope those of you who are taking The Dr. Oz 90 Day Sex Challenge with me are thoroughly enjoying every step along the way. Any serious challenger with a willing partner who wants to put some pizzazz in his or her sex life can succeed. The best sex of your life is attainable. All you have to do is follow the basic guidelines listed below and improvise the rest.

  1. Ten minutes of feel-good-about-your-relationship conversation daily
  2. Ten minutes of kissing and cuddling three times a week
  3. Sex at least once a week
  4. Adequate and personalized foreplay always
  5. Select a fantasy from your fantasy box (see for details or do something else that’s different and sexy) once every other week

Is it really possible to have such good sex that it can take your breath away? Is it realistic to hope for verbal, emotional, and spiritual intimacy? Is it rational to believe this can happen to you and your lover when in the past you thought that great sex with all the trimmings was just a pipedream?

It is really possible. It is realistic. It is rational.

It is… it really, really is.