Giving Thanks

Thanks to Thanksgiving weekend our two terrific children came home from school for the holiday. Our daughter came home on Tuesday (for five days and five nights) and our son came home Wednesday (for four days and four nights) … but… who’s counting? Don’t get me wrong, it was wonderful to see and spend time with “the girl” and “the boy” as my husband and I often call them.

At any given time, at least one of our progeny was home, either sprawled out on the living room couch or making a mess somewhere where there wasn't one before. Our marital privacy was nearly reduced to what it was during the glory days of child-rearing (or so it seemed). Suffice it to say, I don't feel connubially comfortable with my husband when our children are in the house.

By Saturday night, after days and days of the holiday homecoming, I’d either stooped to new a low or I’d risen to a new high in order to spend some alone time with my husband. I gave my son fifty dollars as a bribe to take his sister shopping; I gave my daughter a credit card, and off they went. Happy to be alone at last, my honey and I high tailed it up to our hottie hideaway to be lovers, not parents.

Today is Monday and I am thankful that my children are back in school where they should be.

90 Day Sex Challenge: Next Steps

I wonder how many of you are taking on the Dr. Oz 90 Day Sex Challenge with me.

Are you talking to and with you partner for the required 10 minutes a day? Are you discussing topics that are personal and mutually enjoyable and avoiding stressful subjects about finances and parenting woes?

Are you kissing and cuddling for 10 minutes, three times a week? Ten minutes of k and c should be doable even for individuals who’ve become accustomed to extremely limited affection.

Certainly, those of you who've accepted the challenge are having sex once a week as advised by Dr. Oz who explains, “It doesn’t have to be the best sex of your life, the most experimental or something from the Kama Sutra. But it DOES have to happen. You are carving out time for each other and making sex a weekly priority.”

Dr. Oz promises there’ll be more “Next Step” information on his website (http://www.doctoroz.com/challenge/national-sex-experiment) in December. What are Goddesses to do in the meantime, however, if their sensual creativity has yet to stir and they need “Next Step” information from the get go?

Ideas on how to improve your sex lives are plentiful in books, all over the Internet, and right here on this blog. I pledge my commitment to contribute to the pool of carnal concepts for concept-less couples to use at their discretion.

Even the smallest change to background sounds, lighting, and smells can make a difference in how the “Just Do It” directive plays out.

1. Experiment with different types of background music to create various moods.
2. Utilize one or more Oggz to sensually light the room.
3. Burn a candle or incense.

Whatever you do, do it in the spirit of fun; this will make all the difference.

Sex: Abundance or Famine?

The airwaves and Internet are rife with personal accounts and scientific information on relationships and sexuality. One can expect to find daily talk show hosts and their guests discussing hot topics such as how to nourish intimacy, how to restore romance, and how to have better sex. The Internet picks up where daytime TV leaves off with photos, blogs, and step by step instructions on how to do anything you might have ever considered in bed and elsewhere. The following is a small sample:

Dr. Laura Berman is a media friendly therapist who appears regularly on the Oprah Show. Pretty, perky, and an endearing visual and vocal Goldie Hawn double, Dr. Berman’s forte is sex and relationships. She’s also featured on Oprah’s website http://www.oprah.com under the heading of Better in Bed where she provides expert advice, homework, informative videos, and more.

Rabbi Shmuley Botech (http://www.shmuley.com/), author of The Kosher Sutra 8 Sacred Secrets for Reigniting Desire and Restoring Passion for Life, was a recent guest on The Bonnie Hunt Show. Of the many interesting things he mentioned, the following were particularly noteworthy:

1. One out of three women are taking anti-depressants
2. A third of marriages are entirely platonic, entirely sexless
3. Women need intimacy, men need novelty
4. Monogamy need not be monotony

Dr. Mehmet Oz, new to the daily talk show circuit, recently began a show introducing his National Sex Experiment as follows:

“We are a nation in crisis, in the midst of a sexual famine, and it stops now. For the next 90 days, in the nation’s bedrooms, Americans pledge to save their lives by saving their sex lives. It won’t be easy but it will be worth it. We need volunteers…”

I urge all everydaygoddess.org readers to volunteer with me and take the 90 Day Sex Challenge (http://www.doctoroz.com/challenge/national-sex-experiment). The initial requirements for you and your loved one are relatively easy:

1. Talk to each other for 10 minutes a day
2. Kiss and cuddle for 10 minutes three times a week
3. Have sex a minimum of once a week

Even though I’m already onboard with daily talking, kissing, cuddling, and the minimum weekly requirement stated above, I too can improve my relationship and sex life. There is no end to improving intimacy, novelty, and fun. I say, "the more, the better."

Start today. I’d love to follow your progress. Please email me at everydaygoddess118@gmail.com