Sunday, April 8, 2012

Sustainable Happiness


Photo by DebRA
Happiness is like a butterfly.
The more you chase it, the more it eludes you.
But if you turn your attention to other things,
It comes and sits softly on your shoulder.
~ Henry David Thoreau ~


I think of happiness as a continuum along which there is dense energy (unhappiness) on one side and light energy (happiness) on the other side. The more you partake in things that make you dense, the unhappier you are. Dwelling on darker (denser) topics, revisiting arguments, rehearsing yet to happen unpleasant conversations will never make you happy. The more you partake in things that make you light, the happier you are. The more happiness you put in, the more happiness you get out. It’s that simple.

What makes you happy is dependent upon your values, goals, hopes, and dreams.

What makes me happy?

* Morning Meditation With Gopi Gal Pals
* Getting Together With Childhood Ya-Ya Friends
* Yoga Class
* Full Moon Ceremonies And Drum Circles
* Adventures With My BFF
* Watching Survivor With My Honey
* Sitting Down To A Scrumptious Family Dinner
* Seeing Fairies Hiding In A Beautiful Orchid

Each time you do something that makes you happy (and light), you sustain your own happiness; and in that moment, you send a puff of happiness out into the Universe.

Sunday, March 25, 2012

Theme-Park Quality Sex: Survivor Style

If you Google theme-park, previously referred to as amusement park, oodles of options pop up.  Topping the list you’ll find Disney (land of The Magic Kingdom), Sesame Place (land of the beloved Muppets), and so on. The motif of such parks is a unifying idea intended to enhance a visitor’s enjoyment of themed attractions.

So what makes for Theme-Park Quality Sex?  A theme of course!

A sexual theme begins with an idea (like a seed) which given the proper nourishment can develop (or grow) into something extraordinarily FUN. It can start out in simplicity (and remain so) or it can evolve into something more elaborate. The opportunity to enhance a personal theme, given the extent of new media and technology, is endless. Creativity and open-mindedness are key factors.

Let’s explore the inspiration of a Survivor theme (for the millions of fans of the reality TV series).  

First you and your lover watch the show together (it can be from previous seasons on DVD or the current season). You talk about the people, the relationships, the strategies… everything. This energizes verbal intimacy; and all intimacy is good (it’s the fertilizer of love). Hand holding and fondling are encouraged.  This boosts physical intimacy (more fertilizer – kind of like Miracle Grow).  When the viewing is concluded (in real time or there after), lovers may commence Survivor Sex. Perhaps you watch one of the many porn parodies available on DVD. Maybe you’ve purchased a tribal buff of your favorite tribe and wear it and nothing else. Possibly it’s time to have an erotic Survivor encounter in the privacy of your backyard (if you have one). Let your imagination run wild.

All you really need is a kernel of an idea to set your theme in motion.  It’s about intention. It’s about having fun.  It’s about laughing. It’s about creating a spark with which to build a fiery frolic of unforgettable fun.

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Living In A Survivor Time Warp

Survivor: One World (season twenty-four) aired February 15th.  My honey and I reluctantly watched the first episode only because we were getting new HD cable boxes and didn’t want to chance losing the beginning of the current season.  It’s a good thing we took the precaution because the new boxes wiped out our savings.  We lost a lot in that purge including my two appearances on The Doctor Oz Show and an assortment of network and cable shows the family had been meaning to watch.

One World collided with Survivor: Thailand (season five 2002) which arrived via UPS in the same time frame. Getting to know thirty-two people simultaneously seemed an overwhelming challenge. As such, we abandoned our fledgling interest in current tribes Salani and Manono and devoted ourselves fully to Chuay Gahn and Sook Jai.

Episode four of Survivor: One World airs  tomorrow night in real time and Survivor: Amazon (season six 2003) is in transit.  I’m hoping UPS arrives with it today before my honey comes home from work.  Since there’s no dinner prepared for tonight, the presentation of our new (old) season of Survivor would undoubtedly be welcomed and the absence of dinner forgiven without reservation.   If not, we just might step out of our self-imposed time warp, join the real world, and catch up with what’s current.

I hear a truck outside… could it be UPS? One can only hope.

Saturday, February 18, 2012

Betwixt And Between Survivor Reality TV Series

Survivor: One World aired this week on CBS. I’d been eagerly anticipating the first show of season twenty-four for weeks.  I offered incentives at work for all to watch, so I could have many loved ones with whom to discuss my now favorite TV series.  Prizes for all who watched were promised as well as official membership in the newly formed Soho Survivor Fan Cool Club.

My love affair with Survivor began with season twenty-three, Survivor: South Pacific. I watched South Pacific like any normal viewer, one episode a week for the duration of the season.  Next I turned my sweet husband onto the series when I ordered the complete second season of Survivor: Australian Outback. He was instantly and happily hooked. From then on, we watched at least one episode a day (or night) if we were both at home (there was an unspoken agreement not to watch alone). Next came season three, Africa and then Marquesas.   

My Sweetie and I now face a seemingly mammoth conundrum… what to do… what to watch.  We’re waiting for Survivor: Thailand (season five) to arrive in the mail.
Our dilemma is this.  How can we possibly watch one current episode of Survivor a week and be satisfied?  No bonus features? No uncut exit interviews? No Early Show interviews? Our conundrum is rapidly becoming a quandary.  Do we save One World episodes on our DVR and watch them all at the end of the season? What if the DVR crashes as it’s been known to do? And what of the Cool Club at work? Club members have yet to discuss the first episode as I haven’t yet watched it. Can my Sweetie and I watch two seasons simultaneously? One in rapid succession and one drawn out S-L-O-W-L-Y over the course of several months?

There’s no doubt my medicine man (Buffalo Horn Cloud) would say, “If this is your problem, you surely have an awesome life.”  And I do.  Aho… Yes…And so it is.

Sunday, February 12, 2012

Valentine's Day And Every Day: I Wish You LOVE

Romantic Love, Parent Love, Friend Love, Universal Love
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Sunday, January 29, 2012

Survivor (Reality TV) And The Goddess

Season twenty-four of Survivor, the CBS reality game show, premieres February 15, 2012.  Survivor: One World contestants will be isolated in a remote corner of the South Pacific (on the island of Upolu in Samoa) with little else but the clothes on their backs. They’ll compete for a chance to be the sole survivor and winner of a million dollars.  

My cousin Wendy urged me enthusiastically and often, over the past decade, to share her delight in watching Survivor… to no avail.  I simply wasn’t moved to watch… until one night, I was. It was a pleasant surprise to find myself hooked on the show during the first hour of season twenty-three (Survivor: South Pacific).  Hence, Wendy and I enthusiastically and often shared the trials and tribulations, joys and sorrows of the season (in real time on the phone) and heartily rooted for Ozzy Lusth (our mutually unsullied middle-aged crush).

As luck would have it, a former Survivor in a season not yet available on Amazon.com, joined my workplace family. This increased my enjoyment of the series exponentially. Our shared love of Survivor resulted in an instantaneous and joyful connection.

Good fortune surrounding Survivor continued to bear fruit when season twenty-three ended. I promptly ordered Survivor: Heroes And Villains online and soon turned my honey (who’s normally NOT a reality show fan) into a BIG fan. Survivor: The Australian Outback came next.  We savored an abundance of new things to discuss; there was game strategy, relationships, alliances, and an ever-changing array of details provided by Mother Nature herself. We’re currently watching Survivor: Africa and might even be able to fit in another complete season by February 15th.

I’m in awe of any Survivor who dares to play the game… even for a day… and I’m in daily increments of absolute awe as survivors remain free from elimination at the tribal council concluding each episode. The sole Survivor who outwits, outplays, and outlasts their challengers is the winner of the game… and what a game it is.

Thursday, January 12, 2012

The Starbuck’s Goddess


She’s there for you 365 days a year, from morning until night, rain or shine. She’s even available during a national emergency when everyone else is on edge and securely indoors.When you wake up on Thanksgiving, Christmas, or New Year’s morning and you want your coffee your way, you can rest assured she’ll be there to greet you with her welcoming smile and curvaceous body. 

This is NOT an advertisement for Starbuck’s; but rather an expression of gratitude for a Goddess who's always perfect. I change up my drink from time to time, Café Latte, Caramel Macchiato (Skinny or not), Café Misto, and so on. There’s always one Goddess who never, ever disappoints; and she wears a crown with a big star, high atop her crown chakra.

What am I drinking right now on this 43 degree Fahrenheit rainy day?  A venti, non-fat, no foam, Blonde Roast Misto… and I am happy.